Imposter syndrome (Noun)
We have all had a moment of doubt in our abilities where we feel unsure of if we are any good at what we do, whether it is in your professional or our personal lives. It's not a nice feeling, so what do you do to overcome it? We have put together some ideas for you to try the next time that imposter devil comes knocking at your door.
- Recognise imposter syndrome. As soon as you
admit to yourself that this is truly how you are feeling and not just
having a bad day, you enable yourself to tackle how you feel. Sometimes
giving a name to how you are feeling is just as good as a cure.
- Ask for validation. Vocalising your worries to
someone you trust is a great way to not only get how you are feeling off
your chest, but a good confidant will also help to boost your confidence
back up again. Don’t worry about feeling embarrassed or ashamed, chances
are that they have felt the same way at some point.
- Talk, talk, talk. We are all feeling pretty
isolated at the moment which can impact our confidence greatly. If you are
alone you run the risk of getting stuck with the thoughts in your head and
can lead to depression which is the last thing you need when you are
having a crisis of faith. Set up a zoom call or phone a friend just to
talk nonsense if you want to. We are designed to be social creatures, so
try to avoid hiding away.
- Make a list. It is easy to forget our
achievements, successes and capabilities, by putting them down on paper
you will have physical proof of how great you are. Keep that piece of
paper to look at every time you feel this way and remind yourself daily
that you are amazing!
- Ask for testimonials from customers. This may
sound slightly strange, but when you feel unsure about yourself, asking
for a customer to give you feedback on the great job you do, will
instantly boost your confidence. Every business will benefit from having
good feedback, so it is a practical thing to do anyway. As soon as those
testimonials start coming though it will help no end with your confidence.
Be sure to share them to your social media and website. Let everyone
know.
- Know that you aren’t the only one. We are so
lucky that the internet has given us an abundance of reference materials.
The saying forewarned is forearmed so do some research into imposter
syndrome. It will help you to recognise how you are feeling and will help
you overcome this bad patch.
- Connect with others. Join a forum or
networking group. Particularly in your professional life, joining in with
a group will help you to learn from others. Not only will it give you that
crucial social interaction, but it will also enable you to share your
fears and worries without fear of embarrassment.
- Take a day off. Having a proper break from
work does the world of good. Turn the laptop off, switch your phone to
silent and have a 'me' day. If your imposter syndrome is personal, then do
something to change up your routine. For example, if you are experiencing
a day where you have doubts regarding your parenting skills, then go out
for the day. You may be homeschooling every day, as well as trying to work
and keep on top of the chores; take a break. Go to the park and feed the
ducks or go for a nice walk. Breaking the monotony is essential for you as
well as your family’s mental health. That pile of washing can wait!
- Are you a perfectionist? If you suffer from
imposter syndrome, is this because you constantly strive for perfection?
Absolutely no-one is perfect, no-one is expected to be perfect. Try to
realise that it's probably only you which is putting this level of pressure
on yourself. Try to take a step back from the situation and spend some
time letting go of the unimportant things. You will feel so much better
for giving yourself a break.
- Give yourself a reality check. Yes, this does
mean having a stern talking to yourself. Tell those voices in your head to
get lost because YOU GOT THIS!!!!
Written By Sarah English – Write Idea 11 January 2021
A timely reminder of an important issue, with useful tips to overcome them
ReplyDeleteBelieving in oneself is even more relevant in these unusual times.
I suggest setting a target of trying a couple of the tasks over a period of 2 weeks then when you have the habit try the others until all have been undertaken within 6-8 weeks. Then decide which ones to keep if not all.
Imposter Syndrome is often experienced by new Speakers. After their speech they get applause and then some of the audience will add specific congratulations but the Speaker thinks they are just being "nice" and are not sure whether the speech was that good. Classic imposter syndrome
ReplyDeleteThis is one of the reasons that at Birmingham International Speakers Club we always use Formal Evaluation to provide a true assessment of any speech. We aim to highlight the areas that need more practise whilst enthusing on the great aspects of the speech = this approach enables the Speaker to fully understand the +'s and minuses of their speech and not be left wondering if "people are being nice".
We help Speakers to avoid imposter syndrome.